Self Soothing

1. Don't take other's behavior personally
   Keep neocortex in gear
   * Focus on breathing *
   Stop talking
   Catch your breath.
    
2. Give the dilemma purpose and meaning.
   What do I need to learn?
   What coping resources do I have?
   What similar challenges have I faced successfully in the past?
    
3. If you can't regulate your emotions, control your behavior
    
4. Stop mental tapes ("Awfulizing the situation")
    
5. Take a time-out
    
6. Self care

Self Soothing does not involve self indulgence, emotional regression, or food/substance binging.