Awareness of experience
- Awareness of bodily sensations, feelings, thoughts, wants; chooses to express or not express those internal states, knowing why in the moment.
Distinguishes between thoughts and feelings
- The capability to recognize the thoughts within the feelings and the feelings within the thoughtscf.: Meaning Making
Speaks from an I position
- Takes responsibility for declaring point of view and ownership for the consequences of deciding and acting without impinging the values or beliefs of others.
Describes impact
- The capacity to describe in the moment the emotional impact of another upon self.cf.: Interpersonal Gap
Direct address
- Speaks directly to and not about any other member
Accurate self image
- Is aware of competencies & limitations, strengths & liabilities; is able to critique self; knows the difference between confidence and certitude.cf.: Stages of Learning
Personal presence
- Maintains a clearly defined personal presence-well defined sense of “self” identity, especially in moments of intense emotionality or ambiguity while remaining in the “hot” emotional field and connected with the other-knows where the self ends and the other begins.
Takes responsibility
- For co-creating experience so that in any experience, a relevant questionsare
- What is my part here?
- How am I co creating what I am experiencing?
- How might my past be coloring my present?
Congruence
- Extent to which external presentation matches inner experience; behaves naturally and authentically vs pretending to be what they are not.
- The degree to which the espoused theory of the self is more aligned with one’s theory in use.
